There are a few different ways to give a woman better orgasms. One thing to understand is that more friction equals more powerful orgasms for women. By stimulating her sense of touch as much as possible you give her a good chance of having an orgasm and the more friction you provide the more intense it will be for her.
When having sex you can do this in a number of ways. An example is the following. Get into the cowgirl position, which is where the girl is on top with the man lying on his back women vibrator. However have her lean over you a bit so you can reach her breasts with your mouth. Whilst she rides your penis you finger her clitoris using one hand, and with the other rub her bottom and spank it occasionally, whilst simultaneously kissing her breasts. All of this friction and stimulation will mean she is much more likely to have an orgasm (compared to if you were only to do one of these in addition to the penetrative sex), and the orgasm will much more likely be a stronger, more intense one too.
Now obviously to give a woman an orgasm it’s easiest to do so by orally stimulating her clitoris. Most women can consistently orgasm from this. But you can increase the intensity of her climax by additionally penetrating her vagina, either with your fingers, or preferably with a dildo or vibrator, whilst you give her oral stimulation to her clitoris. At the same time caress her breast or stomach with your other hand. All the extra stimulation will give her a powerful orgasm.
How can you further increase the intensity of her orgasm? Well whilst all this extra stimulation will mean she can more easily reach an orgasm (and have a more intense one), this means you can play with her a bit and delay her gratification. Knowing that even when you stop stimulating her to prevent her from climaxing (just before she reaches it) that you can easily get her to that point again, delaying her orgasm won’t prevent her from having one that session. So bring her to the point of orgasm but then stop the stimulation or slow it down to prevent her from climaxing and then build it up again. This will give her a more intense orgasm because she will have been in a highly aroused state for a longer period of time.
There are many other ways you can give more intense orgasms. One is to tap into one or her sexual fantasies. Now everyone is different and has different fantasies yet there are common trends that males and females tend to like. One of these is the theme of being dominated (or being submissive). Books have been written where the research on sexual fantasy has been described and this seems to be a common one for women.
This means that by being a dominant sexual partner you can fulfill this common sexual fantasy. Some ways you can do this include rough and aggressive sex, tying up to the bed posts (or other heavy furniture), spanking, slapping and light biting, to name just a few. Being dominant sexually is both a psychological turn on for women (in general) and also provides more friction and physical stimulation than average sex, so this is why it’s an effective way to give your partner more powerful orgasms.
Not long ago within our culture, there was a myth that women were not very sexual. If they were, they did not enjoy it, much. It was also not long ago that sex toys were hidden and shameful. It is safe to say that toys and aids have gone main stream. Women are inherently sexual beings and it is the time of our sexual re-awakening. Couples know that sexual intimacy is a major player in being happy together. Not main stream sex as the photo shopped implanted poreless, sweatless, hairless flawless creatures who perform antics designed solely to keep a man’s penis hard or quickly bring him to ejaculation. I’m talking pleasure, beautiful, raw, real, deep. unencumbered, uninhibited mind blowing physical pleasure and the shared intimacy required to create that state over and over and over again.
Another popular misconception is that men are only in it for themselves. They just want to blow a load and use a woman to get off. I’d venture to say that the majority of men secretly want to be the best lover that the woman he’s with has ever had. So what is stopping him? Partly education, impatience, general lack of sensual awareness, but a bigger factor is the woman herself. There are men who are naturally incredible lovers but ladies, you can prime yourselves to be made love to like a sex goddess. It is a woman’s responsibility to know what she needs, what she wants, what she likes and to be able to communicate that clearly to the man that she expects to give it to her.
We women know how to orgasm now. We do it easily and efficiently alone with our toys, often to the exclusion of men who just can’t really get it right. It’s just easier to get the job done alone. But if you had a partner whose touch set you on fire, who knew every nuance of your body and knew how it changed day to day – even hour to hour – and accommodated that. With whom you felt comfortable taking as long as you needed to to orgasm, who you knew would be more than happy to accept directions even as specific as moving his tongue over 1 millitre to the left and half a centimetre lower and going slower, yes slower, yes that is perfect… can you go faster now, and harder… will you massage my Gpot at the same time (without breaking pace)? Press harder please, deeper… Having your body worshiped and pleasured by a perceptive and enthusiastic lover is a treat like nothing else, if you had a man with a magic touch who could do this and take you to another world… you’d be more of an enthusiastic participant than an avoider.
Sitting around reading 50 shades of grey and then getting off alone is not going to ever fully satisfy you, nor is your ideal fantasy man going to spring up out of nowhere forcing you from passivity and magically turn you into the sex goddess you know you really are. But YOU can be proactive and learn exactly what your body needs and how to communicate that to a man so that he can do it to you and for you. Yes, even the annoying ones who pester and guilt you and sigh over not getting sex this weekend and seem to turn you off more with every irritating word they say after 10 years of doing the same thing. Men, bless them, are willing to learn and like nothing more than to see us in ecstasy. And you know what? Allowing him to do this to you and for you will bring you closer together emotionally, resentments magically dissolve once ecstatic exchanges come into play. Truly.